Jersey Girl, Texan Heart: Body Positive Post #10: Life Positivity
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Body Positive Post #10: Life Positivity

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Something I like to talk about every once in a while is living a positive life.  In my opinion, the type of energy you have in your life will reflect on your body image as well.  For example, whenever I’m feeling down in the dumps instead of sulking in my misery (although sometimes sulking is what I need to do for an hour before I’m ok haha) I look at myself and say you got this.  Then I proceed to dress like I normally would dress and I do my hair and makeup.  Now, as much as life has really thrown me some curveballs recently I continue to push forward.  Yes, I cried and yes, I got angry.  However, at the end of the day I’m determined to keep going and I’m determined to turn this negative into a positive, no matter how long it takes.  I think it’s also good to surround yourself with positive people.  I have two friends who are extremely positive and can see good in even the worst situations.  When I’m feeling down or negative they are the first people I hang around and ask for some words of wisdom about life in general.  Just remember that misery loves company.  I know that when my daily life isn’t positive, I start to pick myself apart.  I start looking at myself in the mirror and attacking my own self with hurtful words.  When my daily life is more positive, I can actually look at myself in the mirror and say “I like my hair today,” or “danggggg I look good in this outfit.”  Yes, sometimes I give myself pep talks, don’t judge me!

With all of that being said I want to list a few ways that I keep positive, even in the WORST situations.

1.  Everything happens for a reason

I’m a true believer in everything happening for a reason.  There is a reason why we are put on this earth and given a chance to make our future what we want it to be.  If life gets in the way and pushes us down, there IS a reason for this.  There is a quote that says “you were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.”  That’s probably one of the best ways to describe how I feel about life.  In my 28 years here on this earth, I’ve endured a substantial amount of hardships and pain.  However, I wake up every day knowing that there is a plan for me.  Whether you are religious and believe in God/higher power, or if you just go through daily life, I do believe that there is a reason for each and every one of us.  I know that a lot of things in life are blessings in disguise.  All of the negativity that has gone through my 28 years of existence has brought me to where I am today.  It’s brought me to where I’m sitting right now at the computer typing this for those of you who are losing hope.  DON’T LOSE HOPE!  I was at that point once and I made the decision to stay determined and keep going and that’s why I’m the person I am today.  That’s why when someone is feeling down I know that I can do my best to help them and show them from example.  I have a story, and if telling my story can help someone else, I’m able to go back to the darkest of places.

2.  For Dan

Any of you who have followed my blog know that there is someone in my life who was one of the most important people and life lessons.  His name was Dan.  This entire blog and the reason why I started it is dedicated in his memory.  I keep his picture with me at all times in my wallet.  He was one of the greatest people who have ever been in my life and cancer took his life back in 2013.  He was 28 years old, the same age I am now.  He fought really hard for a year and every day he had a smile on his face saying how beautiful life is.  When he passed away I was so upset, sad, and most of all angry.  I was angry that a person like Dan had to endure all of this suffering and in the end he was no longer here.  But then I thought, he may not be here on earth anymore but he’s moved on to a better place.  He served his purpose here on earth.  When I went to the wake the amount of people that were in that building was astonishing.  He touched so many lives, and he made such a positive impact on my life.  When he passed away I completely changed for the better.  So whenever I’m feeling down or think life isn’t fair I think of Dan.  I think of how he never had a chance to live out his life to his older years.  His life stopped at 28. 

3.  It could be worse

I repeat this to myself a lot.  No matter how bad a situation is I always say it could be worse.  Don’t get me wrong, sometimes I don’t say it right away, but I eventually say it.  For example my big accident back in September, I was definitely not saying “it could be worse” while I was being rushed to the hospital or when I heard the cracking of pieces of my car underneath the firefighter’s boots when they were coming to get me out of the car.  I didn’t really think that until the next day when I woke up and found out my car was saveable even after feeling like I got hit by a bus for a few days.  I walked out of the emergency room later that night (in pain, but I walked).  I was lucky, because it could have been a lot worse.  I could have had broken bones, or even worse I could have died.  Even with everyday things I always say it could be worse.  Another example and this kind of has to do with number 1 of everything happening for a reason is there have been so many times I’ve been stuck in traffic because of an accident.  Now, most of those times, it could have been me except that day I forgot my phone at my desk, or I had a last minute meeting at work that caused me to get out later.  A lot of things in life could be a lot worse.

4.  My dog

My dog is my rock.  Believe it or not, an animal is my bestie.  Whenever I’m feeling down, I’m actually not allowed to do that.  My dog will attack me with doggy love and kisses until I start laughing that she’s practically eating my face and then she leaves me alone.  At the end of the day, when I come home from work and see her face and how excited she gets to see me I can’t help but for a brief moment think everything is going to be ok.  She’s been with me through the darkest of my years which wasn’t that long ago.  She’s been by my side for the past four years and in that four years she’s taught me a lot about life, and myself.  Can you believe that?  A dog taught me something.  I’m not saying that all of your problems will go away when you get a dog because don’t forget the responsibilities that come with owning a dog so it is a life altering decision you have to make, but if you have one they make every day that much better.

5.  Keep Going

I can never stress this enough.  Whenever I’m upset or sad, I find something to be persistent about.  I find something that I will push myself to do because there is an ultimate goal.  For example with everything that has been going on, last week my friend hired me to be in charge of her marketing because she needed the help and I had been looking for a second job.  Even though life has been hectic emotionally, I needed something else to keep me going, so a second job was my first idea and then boom, within an hour my friend had called me and here I was thinking no one is going to hire me with the hours I would request.  Whenever something negative happens in my life I say ok, yes this sucks, but girlfriend you got this.  I have this mentality of getting upset for a minute and pushing forward harder than before to accomplish something.  I guess it’s kind of like reverse psychology haha.  Don’t ever give up, if life pushes you down, keep on trying to get back up until you actually get back on two feet.

Everyone, don't forget to check out my BOPO video that went live on my YouTube a few weeks ago!

P.S. If you want to join in on this movement/topic and don't have a blog just post on Instagram using the hashtag in the title #JGTHBodyPositivity or tag me @JerseyGirlTexanHeart I'd love to read your stories too!


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  1. Such a wonderfully inspiring post!! Your point about using the memory of your friend Dan to help you when you need a positivity boost is on point - whenever I am down in the dumps I try to do the same general thing, basically reminding myself of all those who no longer have the chance to live their lives. Thank you for this beautiful reminder. :)


  2. I have this thing - live the fiercest, most passionate, authentic life you possibly can - and I think that's my rendition of living positively. It's a lot easier said than done, I'm sure you'd agree, but I do find that things always seem better after I try. Even if I fail in the process xoxo


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