Jersey Girl, Texan Heart: Shape Up Saturday Series: Personal Development After Weight Loss
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Shape Up Saturday Series: Personal Development After Weight Loss

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The one thing no one tells you about weight loss or your journey to a healthier you is that you not only change physically, but you change mentally too.  All of the sudden you have a boost of confidence, you feel more energetic, and you’re willing to take challenges or steps in directions you never thought were possible for you.  Whether it be something as small as trying on an outfit you would never even look at, or something like finishing a marathon or anything else that’s something you would never think you’d do.  Along with these positive changes also comes some negativity.  There will be people who won’t support your continued healthy lifestyle, and people who will make comments that even though are meant to be good, kind of put you down in a sense.  If you don’t have any of these issues then, I envy you.  I’m going to talk about my situation, and why I needed to sit down, take a breather, and work on myself mentally.

New Person

Everyone says that when I lost all of the weight it was like a new person emerged.  Which is true because I was happier, healthier, and just all around feeling good and confident.  It was hard for me to adjust because before I would be hiding behind my clothing and making sure all of my clothes were big and baggy, and now I felt comfortable in big and baggy clothes, but I wanted to try the tighter fitting clothing.  Walking into the fitting room and putting on a size 4 in Banana Republic (which was insane) was such an intense moment.  I wanted to cry when they actually fit.  I felt amazing, but then a little voice in my head from pre weight loss started saying “oh look at that little muffin top” (even though it wasn’t bad at all).  In order to get over that voice, I bought that pair of size 4 pants, along with 3 more!

The Scale

In total I’ve lost a lot of weight and inches and gained some weight back in muscle mass.  Let me tell you, it was extremely hard to watch the number on that scale go back up after I worked so hard to keep it off but once I measured myself and saw that I lost more inches, I came to terms with the scale just being one of many ways to measure your body, not the main one.


I’ve vented about this topic A LOT on the blog.  I’m sure you’re all sick of hearing it but I still get comments that are totally unnecessary and I’ve kept the weight off since August.  The “oh you look amazing” comments started in I want to say September/October because I guess that’s when everyone really noticed since I bought a whole new wardrobe.  Ever since then I’ve gotten some extremely nice and extremely backhanded comments.  I think the one that gets to me the most is someone actually saying that I’m beautiful now.  I repeat this one over and over again because that particular comment really stabbed me in the heart when I heard it.  I didn’t think I was any less beautiful because I was still a loving person who put everyone else before herself.  I honestly have learned to just ignore the comments and just say thank you at this point.  I’ve recently had someone say to me that they want to feed me a burger because I got “too skinny.”  Um, I do still eat burgers on my cheat days, and can have 21 day fix approved burgers, so to you, I say back off.

Lack of Support/Understanding

There have been plenty of times where people have not been as supportive as they were in the beginning or as understanding.  Weight loss and being healthy is not a quick fix that you do in 6 months and then go back to exactly what you were doing before.  It’s a lifestyle.  It’s been a year since I started eating healthy and exercising and I’m still doing it.  It’s totally doable and has gotten easier over time.  That’s why when people try to state their opinion I just listen to it and take it with a grain of salt.  I also cannot stand when people tell me to try something they are doing.  Obviously what I’m doing worked for me and is continuing to work so why would I change literally everything I know?  The worst part is these people aren’t “fit” people.  Their bodies haven’t changed whatsoever.  I’m not saying you have to have 6 pack abs to give me advice, not at all.  However if you’ve been plateaued for over 3 months, then I’m sorry I will not take advice from you, because obviously what you’re doing is not working.  Or when people try to tell me how to work out, but when they actually work out with me they can’t finish what I’m doing.  Please understand that advice is definitely welcome, but if you’re not showing results I won’t want to hear it because I’m showing results.  Minus the fact that I’ve had a few too many cheat days in the last 2 months haha.  I guess I went a little overboard.  However, I know how to get back on track.  No one will ever understand your journey.  Everyone's journey is different.  Some people don't go through any of what I mentioned above, and others do.  Some people don't plateau, and other's do.  You keep doing what you need to do in order to make yourself happy.  Be selfish for once.


What I suggest doing, and this is actually something that I was taught from being a Beach Body coach, was try reading or listening to audio books for personal development.  You should be doing this regardless because you’re a boss babe, but the first book I bought was actually #GirlBoss and I’m going to be honest I still have yet to finish it.  I’m a really bad reader, and comprehension is not my strong point so I have to read the same thing multiple times.  Then when it comes to audio, I tend to lose interest easily and zone out, SO personal development is something that I definitely need to work on.  It helps fuel your mind with positive thoughts and a sense of “you got this girl.”  That’s why I really need to start doing this more and I know it’ll help me on my off days where I feel not so good in that tight dress, and help me not pay attention to backhanded comments. 

When you shed the pounds and gain muscle, you are shedding emotions and gaining confidence.  You are shedding all of what was holding you back and gaining everything that you deserved all along but didn’t think you could achieve.  A health and fitness journey is not just physical.  It’s mental.  You have no idea how many emotional ups and downs I had throughout the past almost year.  When I plateaued twice it was the most discouraging thing.  I had to dig deep inside of myself and remind myself why I started and that I’d get over it.  I switched up my meal preps a little bit (less carbs, more veggies, less dairy) and boom, another 5lbs down.  Having that kind of mental strength was something that I had to push myself to have.  I almost gave up and said screw it I’m going to go eat whatever the heck I want, but I didn’t.  I told myself I couldn’t give up, that I didn’t gain 30-40lbs overnight and I’m not losing it overnight either!


**Please note, I am not a nutritionist or personal trainer.  Please consult with a professional prior to doing any of the workouts on this blog.  These are the workouts that I do and work for me, however if you are concerned with your form or if you are able to do these please contact your doctor.  Please also check with your doctor or nutritionist if the food/recipes that I'm posting are ok for your diet.

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  1. This post really hit home with me.... I've fluctuated my weight several times in my life, but when I first went through my major weight loss (60lbs), I got so many compliments that implied that I looked great now, but looked terrible before. It can really mess with your head. I would start to feel like if I just kept losing then I would get even better (which can be such a dangerous thing to think). I also feel you about the advice. I personally seem to get advice from people who have always been thin and never had to work at it... I smile on the outside, but on the inside I know they can't possible know what I've been going through! Great post... and you look great now and before!!


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